Morality

I have come to realize something.

People misuse the argument "You're being judgmental."


Last night I was watching MTV. The show was Real World Hollywood or something like that. In the scene one girl, Bri, brings home this guy. Three girls are sharing a room. Sarah is laying awake on one of the beds and when she sees Bri bring the guy to bed asks that they not do anything because she is awake. Bri promises not to but thirty seconds later you can guess what happens. Sarah is disgusted and leaves the room. She says that Bri does not have any respect for herself or the people around her. The next day Bri says that Sarah is being judgmental and needs to accept that other people are different.


It was something about Bri's attitude that angered me.


People who know me know that I try very hard to never be judgmental. I respect that people live by different morals. Personally I believe that only God can judge because only he is blameless. Unless you are perfect judging other people makes you a hypocrite. Now I'm not perfect and I do mess up from time to time but I do make a genuine effort to not be judgmental.
But with that said I do not believe Sarah acted wrong in any way. Bri was the one being disrespectful because she did not respect the comfort levels of her friends (that's putting it nicely) and didn't follow through with what she said.


If Bri wanted to sleep with a guy she brought home from a club that was her choice. If Sarah thought "oh she's a slut/bad person" because of that then she was being judgemental. But being upset for at Bri for being twenty feet awya after she said she wouldn't was completely normal reaction. Most people would react the same way regardless of the number of sexual partners they'd had.


That is only one example.


People live their lives by different moral codes. That is obvious. We should always respect that but that respect has to go two ways. For example I have friends who are strongly against cursing. It doesn't bother me but I make an effort to never curse in front of these friends. But if I was to say "My friends are judging me when I cuss, boo hoo." that would be silly. You can be disgusted/unhappy by an action without hating/disliking/judging the person.

But so many people in my age group resort to the "you're being judgmental" argument wrongly. I'm sad to see that respect is becoming an endangered species. We have to respect different morals. I like to say to Christians, "If you want to change them, love them. They won't respond to hate." But if you do chose to behave in a way that goes against another person's beliefs/morals you should expect a negative reaction. Why? Because we're human. Duh.


Another thing.

It is okay to have high morals. Today anyone who has high morals are looked down upon. That is wrong. No one has the right to abuse the rights of other people. We all have the freedoms specified in the Bill of Rights but we do not have to agree with everything that goes on in the world.

The gay issue angers me because it is okay to think homosexuality is right but it isn't okay to think homosexuality is wrong. I just happen to support gay marriage and all that but I completely see and understand the other side of the argument.

I ask you this...if everyone is so concerned with being 'open minded' why is it they only see one side of the argument?

Morality is a huge, controversial debate but that is my two cents. Think about it and I encourage you to developed your own stance on it. If we are going to make it into this world we all have to know what we believe in.